Category: Recovery

RECOVERY MYTH: ONE WEEK SUBSTANCE FREE. YOU ARE CONVINCED YOU ARE CURED.

RECOVERY MYTH: ONE WEEK SUBSTANCE FREE. YOU ARE CONVINCED YOU ARE CURED.

I have not had a drink or a drug for a week. I am cured. How many times have you heard that? How many people actually believe it? For the uneducated, this statement paints a sad but true picture of the general public’s belief about addiction.It could not be farther from the truth!Once you complete detox and get a few days clean and sober under your belt, and are feeling better than you have in years, you might think you’re cured.This type of overconfidence will take you right back out...Read More
11 EARLY RECOVERY LESSONS. DO YOURSELF A HUGE FAVOR AND STICK TO THE FACTS.

11 EARLY RECOVERY LESSONS. DO YOURSELF A HUGE FAVOR AND STICK TO THE FACTS.

 Early recovery is a time of healing, discovery, and rebuilding. It is also confusing, frustrating and challenging. One thing to remember is you didn’t end up dependent on substances overnight. The negative consequences you have experienced because of your substance use are going to take time to overcome.You are going to have to make a concerted effort to make changes, practice good decision making, and avoid relapse. Understanding how your substance use has affected you physically, mentally and spiritually and being willing to follow direction and do the work, will...Read More
QUICK TRICK TO VISUALIZE WHAT YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO LOOK LIKE. REFRAME THINKING TO SET LONG-TERM GOALS.

QUICK TRICK TO VISUALIZE WHAT YOU WANT YOUR LIFE TO LOOK LIKE. REFRAME THINKING TO SET LONG-TERM GOALS.

In early recovery you are encouraged to think about the future. You are asked to identify characteristics you want to possess, what is important to you, what kind of job you want, how you’d like your relationships to be, and how you would like to interact with the world.You take a close look at the consequences of your substance use and how you are going to go about fixing them.Short, medium and long-term goals are puzzled out. You exit treatment with an aftercare plan and new coping skills.DISCOVERYFirst you have...Read More
CLEAN AND SOBER – WHAT’S IN IT FOR YOU IS A CHANCE AT A LIFE YOU DESIGN

CLEAN AND SOBER – WHAT’S IN IT FOR YOU IS A CHANCE AT A LIFE YOU DESIGN

 It is impossible to explain to someone in the middle of addiction what the benefits of getting clean and sober are. There is a reason that their substance use has spiraled out of control, continues to progress, and results in the cold and stark fact that to feel normal substance use has to occur.There are unlimited scenarios involving addicts resisting treatment, but ultimately you will end up there . Understanding some of the difficulties you might face trying to get someone you care about into treatment will give you a better...Read More
RECOVERY MYTH – YOU CAN’T FORCE SOMEONE INTO TREATMENT

RECOVERY MYTH – YOU CAN’T FORCE SOMEONE INTO TREATMENT

 This is a minefield of opinion. But, yes, you can force someone into treatment. Whether they stay in treatment or remain clean and sober is another thing. HOW PEOPLE GET TO TREATMENTPeople are forced into treatment by the criminal and family court system all the time. There are special drug courts and outpatient programs that monitor clients over 18 months or so. There is also the 28 day stay at an inpatient if the courts so require.There are also probation and parole requirements that must be met that can include half-way...Read More
CODEPENDENCY SYMPTOMS – ELIMINATE ENABLING COMPULSIONS THAT SHATTER SELF-WORTH AND REWIRE YOUR BRAIN

CODEPENDENCY SYMPTOMS – ELIMINATE ENABLING COMPULSIONS THAT SHATTER SELF-WORTH AND REWIRE YOUR BRAIN

 WHAT IS ITCodependency is a condition where the natural caring process has become dysfunctional. It is caring gone awry. The codependent will engage in repetitive enabling compulsions in order to get an emotional reward. Codependency has long been associated with spouses and family members who have an alcoholic or drug addicted family member.Depending on who you talk to codependency is described as a disease, but not directly addressed in the DSM-5, or it is described as a relationship dynamic. Proponents of the anti-disease definition consider it an abusive, unhealthy relationship...Read More
ABSOLUTELY GENIUS GIFTS TO EXCITE SOBER AF WOMEN – BE THAT PERSON THAT KNOCKS IT OUT OF THE PARK

ABSOLUTELY GENIUS GIFTS TO EXCITE SOBER AF WOMEN – BE THAT PERSON THAT KNOCKS IT OUT OF THE PARK

 Buying gifts for people in recovery will be a challenge if you are the type to only gift bottles of alcohol or alcohol related items. That gets old after a while. Want to make an impression? Gift something unique, out of the box, unusual, or right on point.Putting a bit of thought and effort into the equation will show your friend that you do indeed pay attention to their dreams, their current needs, and a way to spoil them. Spend some time to thoughtfully select something that will brighten their...Read More
ADDICTION WILL KILL YOU – IT’S FRIGHTENING, LETHAL AND POISED TO STRIKE

ADDICTION WILL KILL YOU – IT’S FRIGHTENING, LETHAL AND POISED TO STRIKE

 Addiction will kill you one way or another. There is a reason that recovery literature warns that there is nothing but jails, institutions, and death if you continue to drink or use. Either by design or accident, there is no goodness to be had from substance abuse.HEALTHEach and every drug has a side effect. Mix them, or add alcohol or illicit drugs to the cocktail and the combination can be deadly.Prolonged use of alcohol and drugs changes the chemistry of your body. Almost every cell or organ suffers from the...Read More
FIVE STAGES OF GRIEF ARE THE SECRET TO COPING WITH LOSS

FIVE STAGES OF GRIEF ARE THE SECRET TO COPING WITH LOSS

 THE BEGINNINGThe stages of grief were first introduced in 1969 in the book On Death and Dying by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross that chronicled terminally ill patients.Since then the 5-stages of grief model has been adopted by the psychological / self-help community as the standard for identifying and processing grief and loss in its many forms.Of note is that the stages are dynamic, you may progress through the steps in order or bounce around throughout them until you finally come to terms with your loss. Understanding what the stages represent will help...Read More
EVALUATE THE TOP STRESSORS IN YOUR LIFE

EVALUATE THE TOP STRESSORS IN YOUR LIFE

 According to LIVESTRONG the top ten stressors in life are; childhood trauma, death of a loved one, divorce, finances, job, health, personal relationships, a chronically ill child, pregnancy, and danger. Other sources list the more traditional top five; Death, divorce, moving, major illness, and job loss. What does stress do to you and how can you manage it?HOLMES-RAHE STRESS INVENTORYThe American Institute of Stress uses the Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory that was developed in 1967 to test the hypothesis that stress leads to increased illness. Holmes and Rahe created a points...Read More
UNMANAGEABLE LIFE – RECOVERY ENDS CHAOS

UNMANAGEABLE LIFE – RECOVERY ENDS CHAOS

 Is your life unmanageable? Everybody goes through periods in their lives where certain areas become difficult and unmanageable. If you suffer from substance abuse the chances are that ALL of your life is unmanageable, all of the time and only getting worse. You have become attached to the chaos and drama that accompanies substance abuse.Taking a look at how unmanageable your life has become is one of the first activities you engage in when you enter treatment. It is not pretty. Looking at the effects that drugs and alcohol have...Read More
TOXIC PEOPLE – GET THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE NOW

TOXIC PEOPLE – GET THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE NOW

 Toxic people are not confined to just those that you have an intimate relationship with. A toxic person could be a family member, a friend, a roommate, a coworker, a client, or an online friend. All of them will display the same types of behavior that you ought to be aware of.You need to learn the subtle behaviors that toxic people employ to retain control over you, and have counter measures to avoid the trap.Here we look at some of the behaviors toxic people employ. What tactics they engage in...Read More